MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Today I felt really stressed because I started to think about the amount of work that's waiting for me if I'm selling the house.

There are so many things to deal with before the sale, backyard clean up, plant flower boxes, organize closets, organize the garage have a garage sale, fix up tons of little things around the house and get it ready to list. And just thinking about the move sends shivers down my back, so much work. How am I going to do all of this alone? I decided to take it one day at the time and work on the backyard today and pressure wash the area around the pool.

When I saw the amount of work outside I just picked up the phone without thinking and called WH to come and help, why the heck should I do it all alone. It's in his best interest as well to sell the house for top $$$.

When I asked he was hesitant and said "I have my buddy coming over for dinner and to watch a hockey game" I said "Don't worry about it I don't want to disrupt your plans". Then he said that he can help me for a bit. I hung up the phone and got really angry with myself for calling him and I also was angry with him for leaving me in a situation that I feel that I have to beg him to help me. He is living his worry free life while I agonize over how I'm going to do all of this by myself. By this time I was crying feeling sorry for myself. I thought that it would be a mistake to have him come now when I feel like this. I wouldn't be able to hold it together.

I called him right back and told him that it was a mistake to call him for help that I felt that I was imposing and that can do it by myself. He got really upset and said "What happened didn't I say "yes" fast enough for you? I dropped everything and was ready to go. You are making things harder then they already are" I said sorry, I changed my mind I just want to be alone now.

Great...then I felt bad and sent him an email

I'm sorry if I disturbed your afternoon. I didn't mean to "make thinks harder then they already are". I called you without thinking, when I felt really overwhelmed by the amount of work that I have to do around here. I got upset immediately with myself for calling so I called you back to cancel. I shouldn't have called you. So again, I'm sorry for disturbing you.

He sent this back

I am sorry you wouldn't let me come and help... I am sorry if I appeared hesitant when you called, I was only calculating in my mind how much time I would be able to give you, and wasn't sure if it would be enough ... I am sorry that I didn't call this morning as I should have, to offer to help in the yard... I am sorry for getting defensive... You shouldn't have to do this by yourself, I want to help... Please let's look at all the numbers Monday morning again together... I can come tomorrow morning from 8-11 and help, even if it rains...

I sent him a reply that he could come tomorrow.

Well not a great day, but by tomorrow morning I will be ready to face him.