Dear Lord, please bless my marriage and put an end to the enemy's attack on it.
Please help me everyone. I moved here from newcomers. Just confirmed tonight that my H is having a PA with a woman he reunited with at his high school reunion. I'm no stranger to DB - I've been here before and busted the divorce... only to forget and be put back on here. I have several things running through my mind right now.
1. Just found out... should I wait before taking action? Or do what I think. 2. He introduced her to two friends, one was the best man at our wedding. MIL and FIL are willing to go to the best man's house and all of us tell him to please not accept her until and if he and I are divorced. I think he's upstanding enough to go for it. SHOULD I DO THIS? 3. Do I expose that I know of the affair to him? WE ARE GOING TO RETROUVAILLE ON 4/16 AND I WAS REALLY HOPING THAT IT WOULD HEAL US. 4. MIL says she will not take him back in if he leaves me 5. DO I EXPOSE A TO THE OW'S H? 6. MIL and FIL agreed to let me stay here and hide out for a few days without letting H know where I am. (see thinking on this at the end of post)
We have been in a lot of pain in our R and I know this. He clearly has all the love chemicals going on because he believes she is his only true love. I can't take another year of DBing... or maybe I can, but right now I am in shock and think maybe I can't. I want to short circuit it right away. Help me out guys. So much has changed on this board since I was here before in 2005. Allen, Puppy, Robx - I'm calling on you guys to please comment. Anyone else (sorry if I don't name you by name, I've only been on here again for a short while and still am going through you all)
The first time DH had an EA, I finally had enough after DBing and started to walk away and he grabbed me and cried and begged me not to leave him. I stayed, he broke it off, and then she called him again - he fell back just once with her. I found out, called his cell and told him that I had had an accident (didn't know where he was other than he was with her) - he rushed right over, I confronted him and he again broke it off, this time in front of me and we changed all his phone numbers, etc.
I'm thinking that maybe if I leave for a few days, he may get worried about me and feel scared about where I am. It may backfire. Please help. We work together and I have to go to work on Monday, so I can't hide forever.
