I'm not sure. I'm never going to lie and tell my H that I think something is not fixable and that D is the only way. Yet I'm not interested in being with someone who for whatever reason doesn't want to be with me. But I'm not going to pretend I hold an opinion I don't either. So next time this discussion comes up for me, I guess I will validate that that is his current reality, beliefs, emotions, but I won't hold the same opinion if I don't. Yet I will not spend any time trying to "convince" him either. If that makes sense. So I will try to make him feel heard, I guess, and hope that I am heard. Don't know if that's proper DB or not. But I'm not going to attempt to persuade. And I'm not going to lie.
