Yesterday I had "civilized" meeting with WH at Starbucs. I asked to meet there. I kind of like it in public place better, because there is less chance that he will fly off the handle. WH said that he would have preferred to come "home" (yes he said home) because he needed to iron his shirts, still didn't get iron & board (since January). I said sorry you didn't tell me. This morning he actually called me asking for advice what kind of iron should he get, that he doesn't know anything about irons (yup).

We mainly talked about finances. I prepared our asset & liability statement, and some scenarios of what we could do to organize our finances.

Told him that if we have to discharge all business and personal debts we likely have to sell the house. Showed him some smaller houses that I was looking at. He was getting more and more upset, said that he doesn't want to sell the house, can we just refinance and keep it.

I said yes but for that we would need 2 incomes. I can't carry the big house all by myself and I don't know what's going to happen with him or the business. He got defensive and barked that I should stop trowing that in his face. I said that I didn't mean to upset him but it's something that is on my mind and I want to make sure that d16 & I are self sufficient in worst case scenario. Didn't really agree on anything, but I will continue looking at homes.

BTW he looked horrible, drawn, tired, bags under his eyes. At times he raised his voice but apologized saying that he's not having a very good morning. (Something with OW? who knows). I was short on small talk, very business-like then rushed off saying that I have another meeting. Totally 180 for me. Normally I would chitchat with him if I saw that he wanted to. I don't think he liked that.

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO