Try to avoid any talks when she has had a very stressful day.

I'm afraid citygirl may be right. I was in such hopes that she had gotten out of the A. Sounds as if the contact has gotten stronger recently and she cannot pretend any longer.

I think you need to totally back away from all hugs and any signs of affection b/c she is completely turned off by it. Sorry.....WAW's in an A are that way.

Have to go for now, but I will check back.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!