She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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OK, I am in no possition to give advice. I sometimes dont even follow my own advice. But damn the torpedos I will anyway.

I would show your daughter that you are stronger than her mother. Reasure her that no matter what happens, things will be OK. And let her know you are not giving up. At the same time though, do not show your D any disrespect towards her mother. That will make you look weak and petty. Be the better person.

Let both your W and D know that you plan on fighting for your marriage because for you it's the right thing to do. And that you feel that anything can be fixed. It's never too late. Follow your own concience.

Remember, your W needs to find some justification for her actions and she may actually start believing all the BS she is spewing out even just to make herself feel better and aleviate her own guilt.

With that said, do not argue or yell. Take your time. Dont be aggressive but be firm and in control of yourself. Let both of them see that part of you. Think about what you are going to say before you say it.

Show your W that you can deal with the issues in a civil way. Keep yourself approachable to her and open to discussion. If she gets disrespecfull then walk away and tell her that you will not talk to her if she is going to be disrepectful or baiting. Validate her feelings but do not take blame for everythig she throws at you as being your fault. Just validate how you can "understand how she feels that way."

You havent gotten a response in a while so figured I would throw that at you. Night shifts are a bit boring at times.
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