His MLC and I don't know what to do anymore

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I feel rotten for not having H with me, rotten for being alone, rotten for not talking to my kids, WHY is this happening?

As for your H and the life you expected together forever, no one can promise anything when MLC strikes. No one could have seen it coming, sort of. There do seem to be several common themes early in life, and when they finally raise their ugly head late in life - we all wish had seen it coming a long time ago, move to another country, something. But here you are and this is real. So you need to stay real.

Although I stole this from another thread, it absolutely belongs here as well as an answer to your question/comment.

We are moving on to the subject of cake eating now. MLCers want it both ways. The want the normal parts of their life that produce ZERO stress, responsibility or obligation of any kind. They want all the irrisponsible benefits of not being normal and rebelling against everything they ever were.

When a MLCer sees you having a life outside of sitting and pining for them, they will do things to suck you back into the drama they need to make THEM feel normal...

They want you right where they left you....

Misery loves company....you have been company enough for now....

He also wants to ensure that you are still right where he left you just in case things don't work out and he can come back. It's the old one toe in this pond and one toe in that pond.

It's the dance...it's to suck you in and keep you in his drama, it's to keep you on the hook.

SC, as I hope you see, the responses are basically the same in regards to MLC behaviors, regardless of the individualness of each situation.

They want to keep us in their drama. Personally, I do not know if it is truly intentional or subconscious, but either way, it happens…

It is time to let your H spin, watch and learn, but stay off of the rollercoaster…

It really is time...