If he openly maintains his stubborn selfish position even to the detriment of his own children he just makes your decisions much easier for you.
You are learning to control your feelings in dealing with him and this is going to be to your benefit later.
As long as you stick close to your friends and your children your husband ten years from now is going to be very alone and very miserable... and you do NOT want to be part of that.
He may change his tune some time over that time span, but until then you are best raising your family and your home without relying on his involvement. He really is making your choices EASY... its hard to feel sympathy or guilt for him when he behaves selfishly... so you CAN be objective about him.
His selfishness will one day eat him alive... You don't want to be around for that fallout... distance yourself as much as possible from that.
