She seemed to sound like mothers should get the kids during the school week without question. I don't believe that so I'm not sure how much I'm going to chime in in this session.
My attorney tells me, so far, I have the most parenting time than any other father in the State of NY: -split vacations -alternating weekends -2 dinners midweek -4 weeks vacation in the summer.
If I go to trial, the boiler plate parenting time that I will be awarded is: -split vacations -alternating weekends -no parenting time midweek -2 weeks vacation during the summer.
During your mediation, the line I share with you is that if both parties walk away unhappy then it is probably a fair settlement.
As mentioned, give away all that you really don't need. Stand strong for those things that you need to stay solvent and see your children.
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So bills continue to pile up. I think that's going to hurt me at mediation. When W is backed into a corner financially she doesn't think straight.
Many of our STBXW's don't. I think it just goes hand in hand with the syndrome of WAS's. My STBXW, since knowing that she may get 45% of the equitable share of the house: -has gone to a local automobile dealership looking at new cars -promised our 9 year old son an iPhone -etc
If you think the money will go towards the kids.........
Stay strong. Keep to the high road. Focus on the kids. Stay under control during mediation.
Finally, as for not answering the phone. I agree with much of what the other's posted. If you think that the kids will be 'blocked' from calling you, consider having something written into your stipulation (eg, the kids are free to call the other parent as much as needed and parents are allowed X number of calls per day...week...etc).
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Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
