Mandy, I'm sorry to hear that the house sold. It may be more money for the x and wifey, but they won't have it very long. Their lifestyle will blow every cent of it. To me, that is what is sad.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Trusting and Snodderly, I thank you for your replies. Yes it is sad so sad that the old place as been sold, and all that it will bring with it, I am worried about what impact this is going to have on son though, all through life dad promised him that it was going to be sons at the end of the day, and just as things seemed to be going well between everyone, I fear that this might throw son off track again, it seems like dad as ripped the future away from him again, but oh dear out of my hands suppose it had to sell at some point that was always ex's intention, and I suppose from ex's point of the this is the grand finale that he wanted when he left. would of been nice to see ex move back in there and finish his mlc, a place where he and son could re-unite, now all it is is a mound of money for ex and wifey to party it up again with, whilst son gets nothing. so sad. but we will get through x
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Beingme, I thank you for your reply, no worries, myself and son will bounce back, there is more to life than dwelling on the past and what could of been, x
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so pleased I am not part of ex's life, I wouldnt want to live the life he is living with his wifey. Apparently wifey found out that her friends daughter (remember the old friend of hers that was her matron of honour at the wedding), well her daughter is doing cleaning duties for ex's old aunt. remember also that ex and wifey turned their backs on old aunt way back last october, done no shopping, cleaning or anything for the old girl. well on finding out that old friends daughter is doing the cleaning, wifey as been round to the old friends and they had a show down,all because she hadnt been told of the current situation, and they are friends no more, as if it is her business who does what for aunt, she didnt want to do it and never intended to, they left aunt abondoned at 84 years of age, housebound and disabled. Good job aunt has friends that have rallied round to help, old friend also informed her that I do the shopping online for aunt, and another friend collects her money and pays her bills. wifey was not a happy bunny, and no doubt her old friend told her a few more home truths like about the money they have robbed aunt out of. I just am so glad I am out of all this chaos, because to me wifey sounds just as crazy as what ex is, its true misery loves company. I also wonder if this is why the old place as suddenly sold, maybe her family have jumped in to buy it so that they can repay some of their debts, I do know that wifeys brother offered to buy it some time since for a reduced value, and it was turned down, we will see, but this is getting one hell of a show to sit back and watch, so long as they leave myself and son out of it all, could it be true that what goes around comes around,, mmmmmm I wonder
forward I thankyou for your reply, no there is no inheritance to be had, whatever aunt as is already in place for son, and she is intent that ex and wifey wont get another dime out of her, wifey took her life savings what she had 24k to do up our old place or so the saying went, it never got used. also today aunt as been informed that wifey went home and took her mood out on her cleaner as she says the cleaner had given her this information in the first place so she must of been keeping it from her for a while, what a crazy women this wifey is. also i have noticed that I was receiving odd contact from exy regarding son via texts and calls, this week there as been none since last sunday, this is when all the shennanigins happened so it looks like he is dropping contact with me because he as found out that i am doing aunts shopping, ah well I couldnt care less one day ex and his wifey may grow up. x
Mandy, I think you are doing the right thing in assisting the Aunt. She's alone and quite elderly and needs all of the assistance she can get. Your man is too stupid to see what has been happening. He's so wrapped around the finger of wifey, he'll never get rid of the nose ring that she's pulling all of the time.
I don't blame you one bit....I wouldn't want to be in the middle of that mess. Can you just imagine how wifey went off on the cleaner?
Your X will be contacting your son again very soon. Right now, he's in the dog house with everyone else right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
