This is where people just don't seem to understand...
Letting him go IS AN APPROACH to save the marriage.
It works very well.
I use the same example over and over...
If you want to see how good letting go and letting a man feel that you are done with him and how GOOD that works then just go on almost any thread started by a man on this site...
You will see over and over and over that the man suddenly woke up when his wife seemed to be done with the relationship. This site is FILLED with men that suddenly are wide awake now that the wife has said she is done... Is it not?
Read and observe the men's threads. Notice how often you see them suddenly saying how bad a husband they were. Notice? How they didn't give her enough attention, worked too much, didn't meet her needs and on and on and on they go. Now they are Mr. Perfect Husband. Reading relationship books, praying, learning what an emotional need is etc etc..
Have you not noticed that most all of the men on this site were awakened by a woman wanting to leave? Why didn't they wake up before? Why when she wanted out?
Doesn't matter what the reason is.. The thing that matters is that it must work pretty darn good to get a man to come to his senses doesn't it? It works so well that it actually makes the man want her more than ever. After years of ignoring her and not meeting her needs, suddenly he wakes up.
The common fine thread running through each of the situations of these men is what?
THE WIFE WANTING OUT.. THAT is the common fine thread..
Do WHAT WORKS. We know letting men go works. How? We see it plastered all over this site. Why wouldn't you want to do something that is working on here so well?
