Standing, When DB'ing becomes unhealthy

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I think that something that should be said is that getting back in touch with yourself is fun!

But it takes time. It's a learning process. And I do believe that you have to go through it for yourself, without an eye to whether your spouse comes back. I haven't been dating, but that has to do with me and where I am finding myself, not because of X. I don't feel quite ready to do it yet.

The DB work of focusing on yourself is valuable regardless because we do not want to carry unresolved anger into the next relationship.