I'm sorry DG, I know how it feels, I've slipped so many times and fired-off angry e-mails, or told him what I think on the phone (even hanged up on him). That's the emotions and stress betraying our resolves. After, I always regret it and feel bad about loosing it.

What is done is done. Next time we will do better, right?

Maybe think of something you can do to show him that you care and that you don't judge him without it looking like you are pursuing.(Some peace offering).

Looks like the OW business is on the "right course" she is probably pressuring him. WATCH WHAT HAPPENS AND KEEP CALM.

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO