It is better to let your frustrations out here on the board, but I want you to understand that you are a man and don't lose sight of the role you have in life. You don't swap roles with her and become a female in the deal. I love being a woman, but I don't like seeing those qualities in men--so that is why I call it out when it comes through in a stitch. The stronger you get while you're here....it will show in your writing. Don't pretend, but do work on it, okay?
I understand bad moods. I use to be the queen of bad moods. But whenever her bad moods are directed at you.....call her out on it. She will never try to control her moods/behavior as long as she is allowed to pour it on you. See what I mean? My good natured H would endure my b*thchy behavior and I just kept on getting worse. Hey, I know who I can mistreat and who I can't. I know who will put up with it and who will lower the boom on me if I push them. So does your W and she will not respect you one bit as long as you are having "patients" with her. You are not doing her any favors when she is just acting in a bad mood for no reason. Bet she doesn't act like that with OM. She only lets him see her at her best!
The first thing for you to work at is self-respect and getting respect from her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
