(((SR))) I think a healthy 180 for you would be letting go of parenting when your D is with her mother. I agree with you that it would have been appropriate for your D to be in bed earlier, but this is an area where micromanaging your W's parenting is not going to work for you -- not as a person, a coparent, or an H.
I'm a very involved parent too, so I know where you're coming from. H is planning to take my kids camping on a mountaintop on Wed night -- it will probably be too cold for them, and he's going with a parent with 2 children that my kids don't even like. But I'm letting go of it, because in the big picture that's better for everyone.
Remember that when you're stressing about your W's parenting, you're not taking the time you need to work on YOU. And you can't afford not to do that.
I'm still waiting for 7 things
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
