Here's another question. When I get home and we finally have our talk, she's going to bring up finances. She's going to blame me for the fact that we're not where she'd like to be financialy. We live well, have allot of things, but savings is scarce.
She's brought up money to others and she blames me. Last time I checked everything we have is in both our names, so obviously we both bought the stuff. Unfortunately, things have come up that we've had to use savings for. Her self employment went under, she's been fired three times.
Obviously where we're at or not at financialy isn't all my fault. My question would be, how do you validate that one when she brings it up?
uggg!!! you are still applying logic to her emotional feelings, this is her emotions talking right now.
She's an adult, it's 2010, are you saying she wasn't capable of contributing to your financial status? She made choices as well as you did. She's complaining about money only because there is nothing for her to take so that she can start her new life, are you seriously that blind, give your head a shake. When she blames you, tell her to take those fingers and point them at herself as well and ask her what she did to help with your current financial situation, was she part of the problem or solution? Don't always take it on as your responsibility, you have your answer.
