understand, when times are hard, it can be hard to keep faith.
But realize that he does know the whole picture. Just as sometimes a parent will allow their child to endure hardship because of their choices, or to experience something that will help them grow. We know that it might be hard for them, but we know that thru enduring those times, they will be molded into a better person.
although I can't say 100%, because I did get thru my sitch and my M was saved after going thru what felt like hell, but I totally believe that even if my M hadn't been saved, I still would have thanked God for allowing me to endure it because of what it taught me about myself and about people and about the love that we are suppose to have. After my sitch, I was so thankful, but while in it, I sometimes (especially in the beginning) I felt hopeless. But I read and read God's word. I really read a lot of the sad psalms in the beginning, but here are more encouraging scripture that will perhaps help uplift you.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose
<God DOES love you and he knows the plans he has for you, but you must trust him and trust that you WILL have a beautiful future ahead, even if you can't see any light in the tunnel, do not give up before you reach it. >
1 Peter 5:6-9 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.
<I remember this one well. This IS a huge humbling experience, so allow yourself to just give it up to him and let go of trying to figure things out. Let him pick you up, and he will also use those surrounding you, people who will support you, and people that understand your pain. There are MANY who have been, and are in your shoes. You CAN get thru this. Do not let satan win this battle, you are worth so much more. >
(((Destiny)))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Good for you DU! Getting it off your chest was hopefully a pressure reliever for you. Please keep your expectations at zero for this making any difference to your H at this point. I'm just glad that you feel a bit better for having your say.
I agree DU. Though I'd love to see you continue to avoid contact...for you.
Keep breathing You can get through this.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
He sat and listened to me (I think); or maybe it went in one ear and out the other. Who knows at this point. I finally said what I have been holding back and it felt good. I then told him I had a call to get on and said that if he wanted to talk at some point, I may be open to that, but that I had to go and goodbye. He said bye. He called me back recently and I did not answer.
DU,
This was very good.
I want to caution you though. It is highly possible that you will hear this stuff come back at you in a negative way. Prepare for that so that you can just let it go if it happens.
I am very glad that you spoke with your lawyer.
I know this is scary stuff and having any sort of grounding throughout is very important.
Have a good weekend sweetie. It is gorgeous here today…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Cat, when you say negative way, what would that be?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Cat, when you say negative way, what would that be?
Destiny, what Cat means is that he will do what he as always done... take your words and twist them into accusations of how you failed him. What's important is that you are prepared for this when it happens and YOU DO NOT believe him.
As I told you last night... you're doing great.
How was dinner and GAL with your friends last night?
You r getting really good advise Destiny. Stay strong and keep ur focus on YOU. You will get thru this. I know u can. I know u can. Know that He is with you. TAke this time to give Him all of ur hurt. Forgive yourself, forgive him. You r not alone we are with u.
God Bless Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
How are you doing today DU? Pop in and let us know
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Focus on the positives that you have recieved today. Stop projecting the future! Stop it! This will work. Time and space is on your side sweetie. Keep POSITIVE. Believe in His promises and learn from my mistakes. Do not push him. Take what he is willing to give. Take every opportunity that is in front of you to show him the women that you are and are becoming. I believe in you.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
You can get through this.
Who knows at this point. I finally said what I have been holding back and it felt good. I then told him I had a call to get on and said that if he wanted to talk at some point, I may be open to that, but that I had to go and goodbye. He said bye. He called me back recently and I did not answer.