Thought I would post a quick update. I have been pretty busy with work and the kids, so I have not had a lot of time to post and, quite frankley, haven't felt the need to. Not that I don't want to talk to everyone here. Progress, I suppose.
We are set for mediation on April 21. W's L, who I have been told is a reasonable person, had sent some bush league emails to my L accusing me of playing games to put off the mediation and other such rookie accusations. To he!! with him. Not worth my time.
Continue not to talk with W unless it involves the kids or money. Last night, W, in a near panic, woke me up (had fallen asleep watching basketball - remember, I have been busy with work) to make sure I had received the IM's she sent me on Friday to update me about D's doctor's appointment - after being jolted awake by the sound of her voice, I told her I had received them. Strange.
MIL has been here since Tuesday and, I think, will leave tomorrow. She came up to take care of W, who was supposed to have surgery this week - then it became a "procedure" she was supposed to have (have I said W is a fantastic communicator ). Apparently, she can't have the "procedure" and must have the surgery. Will require 2 week recovery. W said she will coordinate scheduling of the surgery with her mother and me.
My birthday is coming up in early April. W has already put the kids up to asking me what kind of cake do I want "mom to make." I do NOT plan to celebrate my birthday with a cake my STBXW made. I will take the kids to a local bakery and the kids and I will pick out a cake. I do not think I can tell W I don't want her around on my birthday since the kids still don't know. I am good at handling that type situation, so I will. Grin and bear it. Or, better yet, smile and wave.
Now, for my emotional state. I am feeling stronger and stronger with each new day. I no longer want my STBXW, nor do I feel any grief of the "loss" of our relationship. I DO still have concern/worry, but it is related to the fallout on the kids. They didn't ask for this. Of course, neither did I, but I'm an adult, and I can handle it.
So, from an emotional standpoint, I feel I am making progress. Indifference towards STBXW is growing and growing, or maybe has replaced my feelings toward her, at least the positive ones.
I am starting to look at housing (rental v. buying - probably rent), furniture I will need - like beds for the kids' room. I am, likewise, VERY attuned to the women "out there." And that part is exciting. I'm in NO hurry, but I am looking forward to getting on with my new life.
Busy day today. S has baseball pictures, then a baseball game. Have to work on the mandatory disclosures for the D case. Busy.
). Apparently, she can't have the "procedure" and must have the surgery. Will require 2 week recovery. W said she will coordinate scheduling of the surgery with her mother and me. 