So long as W is in the house, you stand a shot- Everyone is right, you REALLY need to PMA and detach.
My W first said she was moving out in Sept...she moved out Jan and officially everything in March.
Don't push anything, dont speak of the future, dont bring up memories, etc.
You are freaking out inside- I can tell by your posts...you have to think of this as someone elses sitch- cut out the emotion...it's like how they wont let a doctor do surgery on their own family member...unfortunately you have to do this surgery, but you need to be SOOO detached.
I like PUPs advice a page back or so. THE M IS DEAD...I know it sucks to read that, I hated reading it for the first time...but thats the mentality you have to have.
You have time and opportunity.
When W was here last week she said-"I really just wish you took better care of yourself through this."
I did not- I was a wreck- quit going to the gym (thought it was a 180 b/c she always complained that I went too much.)
You have to be in the best mental shape of your life- this is a traumatic event, one of the top 3 worst things a person can go through.
It's harder for us LBS b/c we want it...the WAS not so much, but from my understanding, their pain comes later...
You are doing well, just watch the backslides...btw sorry to hear about FIL- it stinks knowing that W can draw support and comfort for D from her divorced parents...I know the feeling
W's supports are a molestation survivor/atheist, widowed and D'd mom, self serving OM1, and now D'd and loving OM2...WTF
