The dreaded LIMBO

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I need help...I have been maintaining very little contact with husband. I am detached and actually things have been going smoothly for me. I don't contact husband but when he calls, sometimes I answer and sometimes I don't.

Well, he called again yesterday and I answered before looking at the caller id because I was rushing out the door and had my phone in my hand. I got off the phone quickly because I was rushing out the door...he was trying to tell me about something with work but I REALLY was running late. Told him I would call him back in about 30 min. Well, 30 min for me turned into 3 hours and I hadn't called him back. Husband called me back and I answered and he began telling me about his job and how he had a meeting with his boss and might loose his job due to something that he did. I won't go into detail, it isn't too serious but it is something that they could either suspend him for, give him a warning, or they might actually could decide to fire him. His boss told him he would sit on it for a few days and then get back to him regarding what he was going to do. I listened and didn't say much. I usually would give husband reassurance, etc. but I just listened. I felt bad inside but I only could talk for 5 min because I was once again on my way out to meet up with some friends for dinner. I never called husband back while out because (1) I didn't think I should rescue him by giving him reassurance and (2) both my cell phones batteries died while I was out. When I got home very late and charged my cell phones, husband had texted both phones and asked was I still at a specific restaurant. I NEVER told husband what I was doing or where I was going so one of his friends must have seen me and told him. I didn't text him back and went to sleep.

Question is, am I doing this right regarding his situation? The usual me would have called him back and been his listening ear and just been there for him...we would have come up with a plan together and I would let him know that everything would work out in the end. I do feel bad and am concerned about husband and his job situation. He is worried and just wants to know if he will have a job before he moves into his new apartment. If he does have to resign then he needs to know before he is responsible for rent. I know that he just wants someone to talk to because at first his attitude towards the situation was "it is what it is...no used in crying over spilled milk" but the next time he said he was stressed out about the situation. The "nice girl" in me wants to listen to him, tell him God will work it out...but the "new me" is listening IF I have time, thinking about how I am in a situation that is less than ideal due to husband's actions and he didn't sympathize with me, and not taking on husband's problems as my own (detached :-)). This is his mess and he will clean it up. It is just an inner battle with being nice and not letting people use me. I know it will really be a blow if he looses his job. I HONESTLY don't think he will but these things could go either way.