So, two nights ago and today, my progress: not reacting, standing up for myself, confronting H, and the result: de-escalation and apologies.
That is great progress for you. You are learning self-management in a very difficult situation and all the hard work you're doing will help you in life no matter what.
I'm not sure I'd go as far as what OP wrote, but I think he has a point that it would be helpful to draw a circle around your H's stuff and call it HIS crisis. IMO that doesn't mean giving up on DBing or your M. But I'm going to be one of the those annoying people who nag about detachment now
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Thanks all disappeared because S has been home sick and now I got it too!
Trying to get back my resolve after Sunday's "you don't get it, I"m not interested, we've never been meant to be together" speech plus the info about painkillers I'm licking my wounds this week. Rocked, you said you heard these things too - any words of encouragement appreciated - in my heart I don't think he's done - we've made such progressand he's not gone yet is he?
(((Hope))) what I can say is that I heard those exact words only a few short months ago. On Christmas Eve I got a card with the words "now I know we were meant to be together" written in it. So, take heart... it is possible!
Just sending a quick shout out, Hope, and hoping you have a peaceful weekend--
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
Of course you're licking your wounds H4L. It's been a rough week.
How do you turn things around? You're doing it. Keep the course and recognize what's his to change and deal with.
Take care of yourself (hint: sleep ) and get well soon.
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me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
VEry sick. S complaining I"m no fun because I don't play with him. He's been home sick too for a couple days. I broke down and asked H to come tomorrow and take care of S so I can rest. Expecting the big blow off. Apparently, whatever he does on SAturdays is more important than his son.
