I can see how difficult this is going to be - keeping my patience going and not having expectations is difficult but I am managing pretty well. I am letting her lead and will see where it goes. Finding the right balance is the trick.
There have been many more baby steps. She wanted to go to school event together. I told her of an upcoming business trip and she wants to go too. She is starting to open up more about what she is feeling and it isn't pretty. It is painful to listen to but the good thing is that she is facing her past.
I was reminded that we are nowhere near through this as she was leaving to go to a movie with "friends". She won't be back until tomorrow afternoon. I handled it all well because I have kept my expectations low. It isn't easy though.
Me: 43 W: 40 S10,S7 M12, T13+
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1952314&page=1