i feel the same way. i can do 180s, go dark and it wouldn't change a thing. he has already chosen his parents over me. i think my h chose them because he felt guilty guilty because he can't always be there for them. they are constantly telling them "oh poor me" type stories that it makes him want to help them. as they age, more health problems arise, the more "oh poor me" stories are told. it just snowballs to the point where he feels that they are running out of time and so he needs to put them first and foremost. i can't compete with that because i'm young and vibrant. i'm not dying.
