my relationship with my parents was pretty normal. i was never close to my dad. i went through the rebellion years during high school. after that, my mom and i became close. i've always been tight with my siblings. in fact, when the d-bomb was dropped, they called me every day to see how i was coping. when i hurt or cry, they hurt as well. it brought us even closer together. my parents have always taken a hands off approach to their adult childrens' lives. they taught us life skills and it's our job to learn how to use them. i think i've always been a nurturer which is probably where the co-dependency comes from. h doesn't have many friends. he always turned to his parents. what changes i would want to see in him? i'd like to hear him say that he is a husband first and a son second. if i knew that was how he felt and he actually followed through on that, then i wouldn't feel as if i was hired help. i'd feel like a real/equal partner in our m. cuz right now, i don't feel like an equal partner. i feel like my ILs have a bigger say than i do. and that's what hurts the most.
