This is persuing behaviour, Babydoll. Stop it with the questions. I don't mean to sound hard, but I am worried about your ability to control yourself. I can see ME in you. I can't stop myself either.. but it's controlling, and it means you are not letting go...
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
i cant help but thing that between the pregnancy, and his school program and having no financial means between the two of us that he is completely freaked out.
Yes, sounds like too much pressure, but he has to man-up, not run back to his parents. Look at you - you're the pregnant one doing it alone in your apartment... You're being the adult here.
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
my heart breaks for him
I worry that we women worry too much about our men. I KNOW what you mean. I have the same feelings for my WAH who I think is also a having a breakdown, but it doesn't seem healthy for me to be shedding tears for them right now... They are adults, not children. [/quote]
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
he wrote me today and said he did love me and was in love with me and when he started to feel something was missing between us that it was just a rough patch, his words exactly... "i thought that we were indestructable and it would get better or fix itself". he claims he loved me so much and yet he also said maybe i didnt love you the way love is supposed to be.
what does that mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This IS very confusing..Can you type it out verbatim?
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
why cant he see that we are still the same two people and he can fix things!
He's not there yet...that's why you have to be lovingly detached....
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
problem is that i dont know if there is something i can do to make him see that.
The best thing right now might be to do nothing, or very little. Be calm. Avoid bad communication. Don't persue. If he wants to talk about the relationship, then listen to him, validate what he says, don't argue or try to convince him of anyting. He's not ready...
