and just one more thing to add to this...I would prefer my H emotionally and mentally in the M from a distance..than emotionally and mentally distant within our home. If he is not emotionally or mentally there..you can have J Lo's a**, Angelina Jolie's lips, and Pamela Anderson b**bs...swinging from the chandelier naked...he is still not there!!
My approach would be to get him on board mentally and emotionally...then everything else will fall into place...it won't be a question of IF he should come home..it will be a matter of how quickly he can get his stuff back in the house. IMO.
