I understand Gucci's POV...I guess I have been burned by this. After D-day numero uno...I forgave my H and wanted things to go back to normal as QUICKLY as possible..he wanted that too. We both were not ready. An important thing I learned during this nightmare is that you cannot make your H do anything he isn't ready for..and if the OW is not out of the picture...there is NO moving on...no matter what the H says. My H spoke like he wanted to move on D-day numero uno and dos..but OW was still in the picture...and still is. Now I am going to follow my gut instinct. I just feel it isn't time yet.
I just got word today that OW is finally leaving his office. This does not guarantee the A will end..but if he truly wants to move on..here is his opportunity to move on. For what it is worth, my H wants to come home at the end of April..I am holding off. Patience is a virtue. I am not rushing things this time. I need to FEEL he is ready...I dont want to only HEAR he is ready.
Do what you feel in this situation...but as I said before..I would prefer to be lonely alone..than lonely with someone else. If he is not fully there..why have him there?? Listen..I guess it comes down to what you feel inside. If you feel like there is a change in him..ask him to come home. I just caution you. You do not want him back in the house and not be fully back in your M. This will set your progress back.
