The latest from bradley

[smith18]

but again, it is so hard because I keep shooting my feet off.

so strange the way I cannot control myself.

You need to find some sort of way to remind yourself how to act as if. Trunk monkey?

[figgeroni]

what do you want...
to be right
or to be married

decide because it is important

you can keep badgering your wife until she says, you are right...I lied, I cheated, you are better and then you will have lost her

or

you can assume she had an affair, she regrets it, she wants to try again and let it go...

this is a chance to begin again

you can't begin again and go forward if your are stuck looking out the back window

[bradley11]

fig

I WANT TO BEGIN AGAIN

I am going to go with that. that there was something... or there was nothing... and now it is over.

One day at a time. nothing is filed. nothing is done. I am going to win her back. I am going to show her the man that I can be.

I really think she has been waiting.

time is on my side.

[Bworl]

I WANT TO BEGIN AGAIN

Begin again.

I am going to show her the man that I can be.

Don't show. Become. For you. That it appeals to her is positive collateral damage.

I really think she has been waiting.

Believe that she is waiting. And thank your lucky stars every day.

time is on my side.

When you start really believing this, you WILL notice a change in YOU.



Blessings,

Bill

[ericmsant2]

Bradley -

All I can say to you is Patience... You have a very good shot at fixing your M. I KNOW THIS. You need to stop the "me, me, me" and think about her, her, her. You have recieved a ton of positives from her these past few weeks. I think the question that you will need to answer for YOURSELF is....can you learn to trust and believe her. If you can do this and slow down you will do fine. I know this can work...think of those twins dude. Think of those twins. DO NOT MAKE the mistake I made and push. Take it slow buddy...take it slow.

[bradley11]

eric-

thanks man. appreciate the words as always.

today has been interesting. lots of calls from W-- she is very anxious and just wants to talk to me.

I am being calm, patient, and understanding. I guess its good that she is calling me because she is anxious, needing to talk to someone... rather than someone else.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Hey B,

I am being calm, patient, and understanding.

But are you those things yet?

: )

B,

You have a chance at an amazing relationship, you do.
I hope you become that guy. : )

Have a great weekend.

[bradley11]

Jack-

no. I'm not those things yet at all.

but I am working on it every day.

thank you so much for your thoughts and nice message.

I hope you have a good weekend too.

GAL activities-- played some golf today

went out and got bar food and beers with friend and watched some basketball.

w texting and calling me lots today. sending me pictures of blooming trees... jokes, making her laugh. not sure what it all means. will take it as good.

moving next fri. then back here two more weeks. then up there for good. boys having a hard time these days... wondering what the hell is going on. they are not the only ones.

but I'm getting more and more detatched. I don't feel physically sick and anxious all the time. so that is good. getting better sleep at night.

looking forward to seeing my kids in a few days. going up there for second MC appt monday.

[ericmsant2]

Pete -

no. I'm not those things yet at all.

Well then keep working at it.

w texting and calling me lots today. sending me pictures of blooming trees... jokes, making her laugh. not sure what it all means. will take it as good.

Take the positives as just that positives. Do not look too much into them. Your M did not break in a few months and will not be repaired in a few months. Patience...my friend.

Keep your emotions in check. Look at my sitch and see what happens when your emotions get the best of you. Please learn from my mistakes - please.

God Bless
Eric

[ericmsant2]

Bradley -

Did I tell you that I am learning about the type of choices we have -

We choose to...
- Love someone
- Trust someone
- Believe someone

These choice are OURS - not someone elses but OURS. So what choices are you making these days? Oh...btw - some of these choices are not easy.

Eric