I like Phil McGraw's but he writes pretty stern like I do :
Be mature enough to recognize that life is not always all about you and what feels good for you in the moment. If you are married and have children, you have an obligation and a commitment that far transcends what feels good.
And the real kicker is that obligation can feel REALLY good if you put the time into it...
What are we trying to say here to your H though? We may be getting off track if what prompts you to give him that speech you posted earlier...