You cannot force the connection...it cannot go back to the way it was overnight. I don't know what the 'magic' bullet is because I am still in the same boat as you..but I am going to try the baby step method. I want to be able to talk about anything other than our R woes with my H right now..we need to learn to be friends again. I don't think we are going to have a 'game changing' conversation..I think that this will need to be a gradual process...very very slow.
I think this is an amazing quote, lola! Well said!
Nicole8, if I could just throw my 2 cents in here, I would hesitate to ask your H to move back in just yet. You have been taking some amazing DB steps in your approach to him, and you are seeing some movement in your relationship. My fear for you is that this will be too much, too soon for your H and he will back off quickly. I don't want to see you loose all that hard-fought ground that you have gained. I would encourage you to keep the course and not mention moving back in just yet. Allow your H to lead the pace on that conversation. You are doing so well...I think lola's advice on baby steps is excellent for you right now!
