You have got to DETACH from h. Don't let every decision you make now be influenced by what you think he'll do or say. The sooner you start to be independent of him the sooner he will take notice! Read ACORN's post on detaching. It sure helped me. Go out and CHANGE you and get the focus off your h.
Go to the pastor but don't look for a reason to give h the d. You need to look for a reason for your mind to be decided! Do you want him back or not? is the ? of the hour. Even if he thinks he wants the d...his mind can change! My h has been in my face numerous times YELLING it's absolutely over this time...but i stood firm in my decision NOT to get a d and now he says he has hope for our marriage to grow/we are in counseling. If you make a decision and do not waver, your strenght WILL make an impact on him.
Now go out and get in a kickboxing class, change your hair style, join the gym, take up sewing, get your nails done, change your wardrobe, change the decor in your house...go do what you want for yourself! Believe me a vibrant, determined, strong, purposeful woman that is in YOU will get his head turning. Take it from me...it works!
