That's the problem...you have to realize he's not rational right now and he may be living in a grown man's body, but he's reverted back to a teenager. You are not dealing with an emotionally mature adult.
Mlcers are kids in adult bodies. We can't see the bruises and cuts that they suffered as children because they are internal. When the switch is flipped, they go back to the time when they were emotionally stunted. Just as your friend has. They do not stop and think about anyone else but themselves. It's all about them...it's the mentality of a selfish, self-centered kid.
You don't know what he's told his friends and family. Blood is thicker than water when it comes to his family. At some point doing the journey, everyone will begin to see that something is seriously wrong w/them. You have to sit back and let them figure it out for themselves because your h has rewritten history and you are now the enemy. After all, why would they think he was making it up? Surely it has to be true if he's walked and it now living the life of fun and freedom. Again, eventually they will figure it out.
Just be the best you can be and whatever you do, don't talk to others about your situation. I would suggest that you select two very good friends and use them as a sounding board and come here too. The less information that finds it's way back to him the better.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
