Yea, but look at one reason why you're so Deeply in love w/ them...b/c they are unavailable and "checking out."
I'm not going to say that's the only reason...but it's a HUGE factor.
The point of DB-ing- ironic, b/c I only understand it now- is to save yourself first and formost...to make the changes you need to make for you...to be OK w/ or w/o the M.
That's what needs to be done- like they say counter-intuitive, but that's the name of the game.
You can DB your a$$ off and get nowhere...so long as you're still focused on the M and saving it- DB all you want, but you will still be the one in pain.
If you DB your a$$ off, w/ you coming first- you might get the same results, but will be FAR better off after the fact.
The loss you need to exact is TRUE loss...assuming you've tried addressing the issue, being the better option, etc...you can still be the better option w/ yourself coming first- GAL your a$$ off, detach, and be OK w/ whatever happens...
Any type of loss falling short of that, is contrite...no offense, and will not have the impact necessary to turn heads (which if done correctly, you won't even care about)
