Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[BWP]

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[Marked&Healed]

To me, the fact that the long calls are occurring when you are not home is evidence enough.

[jasper67]

I agree...anytime of convenience when you are away or she has down time says it all...look for lunch time calls and those where she's on her way home from work...

Something else that's fun is go back to when OM was not in the picture...if you can access her account online and look when she used to call you...you'll probably see that now she calls him...

One word of advice- be careful w/ the intel...it can become kindof addictive and even too much fun to come up w/ theories...keep yourself in check

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Something else that's fun is go back to when OM was not in the picture...if you can access her account online and look when she used to call you...you'll probably see that now she calls him...

That was true in my case!

Puppy

[BWP]

The calls are exactly when she used to call me especially the one's she's making from travel. So lets explore the idea that what I have is enough. Any other opinions on this?

I really want to have the exposure be effective at busting the affair and not just driving it underground.

IC session today was better. C has a better idea of what I'm facing and is starting to focus on action steps to take. I haven't really shared with him the intel though.

[jasper67]

Exposure is not my forte as I had terrible results...W had already campaigned and established supports of those I reached out o- individual happiness, apparently can be VERY convincing.

UGH- I do not envy your sitch, BUT DO NOT LOSE HEART!

I would say for your own benefit, you have more than enough to know that its not good...I would go after the silver bullet though- VAC recorder etc...it may take some time, but it's really what you need.

For now, wait, collect more, make a plan and consult w/ PUP and Allen

[BWP]

Very weird night when w returned. I did my best to remain positive and upbeat but quiet and not initiating conversation. W was asking me how my week was, what I did. Told me about a friend of a friend who was ill then said if you answer my calls you'd know. I know you are mad at me.

I didn't say a word to that. Then she hugs me when I'm reading my d a story - no hug back, just a smile. Asks me if I want to watch a movie with her. I said sure but then stalled watching TV while she fell asleep on the couch.

I have to admit it was strange...can't read too much into it. She's probably feeling guilty.

[jasper67]

Good job on not feeding into the trap...I don't know what some of the others would say, but I think you should have watched the movie w/ her...

I did some of the same things- I dont know if they would have helped...one night after a bad IC session w/ W I ran an errand and was going to GAL...she called and asked if I wanted to watch TV w/ her- I declined...it's strange b/c you still have to consider your 180s

There may be no right answer here...just toy around w/ some of those situations and see what happens, the results are what you need to monitor.

Good job though

[BWP]

You might be right about the movie but to clarify she was the one watching TV so I didn't push the movie. I'm out with friends tonight, some guys I used to work with and she's home with d.

Intel should start coming in now (beyond the call log). She went out to the gym this morning and based on the patterns they speak on the phone at this time usually.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Intel should start coming in now (beyond the call log). She went out to the gym this morning and based on the patterns they speak on the phone at this time usually.

You a drinking man??

This stuff can be brutal -- prepare yourself.

Puppy