Hi HFC,
Your children not talking to their father is a consequence of what he has done. At some point that may bother him enough that he gets it.

I agree with OP. If the ow is still present your H is in replay, but it sounds like he is really spinning.

My understanding is that they will reconnect to friends and children first. The spouse is the last in line.

Dig down deep for some more patience and keep your seat belt fastened.