Fergie - <whisper> We'll just stick w/"stuff" sags! LoL And, your guy friends are insane. Women in their 40's are at their prime. Just ask my RABBIT! Grrrrrrrr! LoL Seriously, that is funny... they want you out before the kids wake up.
Nothing sagging on me yet. At least I don't think so.
Ask your RABBIT?!?!? TMI! I'm hoping your rabbit is what I think it is and is battery operated and not something... umm... "furry"? Since we are already well past talk of swapping recipes... you should get the "wand" of the "magic" variety. Not that I go around asking every gal, but I have yet to find one who doesn't love it.
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Fergie - There's a group called Divorce Busters. Hidden from RL. Join it, and you'll see this blonde posted on the front page... A real Handful.
Will do. Is everyone on there using their personal FB or an alias?
I don't have actual pic's of myself on my FB. I've been staying pretty anon on FB. I'll get it changed ASAP. My hair always ends up being a nightmare. I think I dress pretty stylish. I dress for the occasion. Maybe if you are nice to me I'll throw a kilted pic of me on.
Ha! I was just logging off - LONG lunch w/the girlfriends!
You got it w/the rabbit. Will check into some magic! LOL
Most of us have alias fb pages, under our db names, or something similiar... Kilted pic! Sh*t! Now, THAT is worth all of this work to get you turned around! Hahahaha Love it! My H dresses well, too. My thread has some discussion of his wardrobe, as well, just in case you'd like to change it up a bit! Haha
Be good.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
one more thought... just when you think you W doesn't care, she might!
Long story short.
Last Fri night was my kid's schools big fundraiser/dinner auction. I am on the BOD, and know the student body, parents and administration well (plus, we've had three kids through there!). Well, at the event, I got a little buzzed (SHOCK), and was bet that I couldn't get the new superintendent (10 years younger than me and BUILT) on the dance floor. "Mrs. M, he just WILL NOT dance. He does NOT dance." Yea, OK... Well, needless to say, Mr. Superintendent was dancing w/me w/in a few minutes (Lady Gaga!), and all had a good time.
Fast forward to last night... My S10 was in the school play, and WHO is there... Mr. Superintendent. While waiting for the play to begin, I'm talking to my H, standing, facing the crowd of people. Mr. Superintendent starts waving at me rather obnoxiously. I give him a smile, a wave, ANOTHER smile... (What is up w/this dude's incessant waving and smiling?!?!) OK, so, I give him one final wave and a wink, almost as a dismissal. H wonders who I'm exchanging all of this with???? I say, "Oh, it's Mr. Superintendent, let me go see what the hell he wants... he's waving, and smiling and kind of obnoxious!" I turn around, and H pulls me back by the shoulder, and says, "I'll go see what Mr. Superintendent wants. YOU stay here!"
Mr. Mindfull went over, shook his hand, and they shared a joke, etc...
But, the point of my story is... My H is friendly, helpful, home, present, etc... but has. in the past, claimed to be completely uninterested anymore. "He can't make me happy anymore." Funny, how a few 180's, a lot of patience, some weight loss and confidence return, start to make him interested in whose getting my attention while he's talking to me!
You may THINK she's not interested. But, she was at one point, right?
Sorry so long.
I think she does still care. Everyone who has talked to her said she is conflicted. But that could just be her public image.
With you guys helping me out and making sense of it (especially Rob's "She doesn't care!" post) I'm getting a much clearer picture of the sitch. And I realizing this has been going on for much longer than I thought. I think Pearl's post on her pov is spot on, but that is only the W's pov and not the entire sitch. I can beat myself up about it, but I can't feel too bad. And she *has* been dragging me down instead of building herself up. I now find myself reverting back to who I was before we met and I'm feeling much happier and a lot less angry.
I was working (and flirting) with the coed grad student this morning (nothing major, she has a boyfriend and I'm way too old for her. Okay... maybe not *way* too old ). I was sharing my carrot sticks, talking about camping, cats, bagpipes, and her being the Venezuelan waltz champion. And then it hit me...
THIS IS WHAT NORMAL PEOPLE DO! She was asking more questions about me in one hour, than the W has bothered to ask in 13 years. In return, every question I had for her, I'd have five more. People are far more interesting when they have hobbies and passions other than just work (duh). And I don't think I lack for hobbies or interests or enthusiasm for new things. The W even has to horn in on *my* interests (like the fish guy camping post), to relate to others.
So, yeah. I think she still cares for me. I just don't think she is *interested* in me. And if we ever make to piecing, how do you fix "boring"?
Don't apologize for the post length. It's nice to read someone else stories instead of listening to me ramble on. Keep 'em coming. --Fergie
- without fixing "boring" you will always have issues. But if she is the "boring" one, that's not something I would worry about too much.
As for you flirting with that young coed grad student, you have that cocky, funny, making fun of her thing with jokes and teasing thing going on, considering she was very chatty and asking lots of questions about you, don't be surprised if you flipped some attraction switches with her, age is just a number, it really isn't that hard, some people do it by accident, others know what works and do it on purpose. Good practice for you for when you start dating ;-)
OK, be DONE w/that thinking! You'd have to be a spreadsheet, netbook or market analysis to get her attention!
Do what feels good for YOU, and ENJOY, even the Venezualen waltz champion, in an arms-length kind of way!
We have a Vene nanny once. She was a KICK, and gorgeous! LOVED her!
I know you love your W, but she sounds droll.
You, on the other hand, are not. Go have some fun, and forget about her. Enjoy yourself, and, keep busy. She WILL come sniffing around, when her report is complete, all voice mails returned, and lights are off in the office. Maybe you'll be too busy then, HAVING FUN!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
It's not that. It's that if a person has no passion for anything in their own life (except work), how can they expect anyone to have passion for them? Or how much passion can you expect them to have in anyone else? Like you said, I'd have to be a spreadsheet (or a coworker) to generate any interest from her.
The Venezualen waltz champion is just friendship material. I get dozens of 24-27 year old coeds come through the lab. I'll have to tell you about the one who was in the college issue of Playboy sometime.
). I was sharing my carrot sticks, talking about camping, cats, bagpipes, and her being the Venezuelan waltz champion. And then it hit me...