Jamie, we're so much alike...hint hint haha - I know exactly what you mean by being shy and people thinking you're stuck up - that's me. I did try to think of her as my neighbor who brought a pie over I guess I could treat her that way but I really don't think she'd want to have sex with me...LOL I kill myself sometimes.
Ah... we even have a similar sense of humor! You know, when my D was old enough to observe me, I consciously started making an effort to be more talkative and less stand-offish with strangers b/c I don't want her to be painfully shy, if I can influence it or not. You know what? It's made ME more comfortable talking to people myself, even though it started off just for her Yeah, I can't help you with the sex with a neighbor part- just don't want you to be overly concerned with what you're projecting and to be relaxed and breezy/cheerful (you know I struggle with the same thing you do, so it's easy for me to suggest to someone else!) to take back some power.
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mind, I don't know what's changed, maybe the atmosphere here is affecting me. I'm thinking about this stuff a lot more than I was initially. I'm questioning if my behavior is pushing her further away or not. If I go back to my bahvior a few days ago in a nutshell it was 'I don't care what she thinks, does or feel anymore' and that would be stand-offish to her. It would mean I won't talk to her unless i had to regarding DD or something important like taxes etc or unless she asked me. But is that helping me or not? Should I continue that behavior?
Have you sat down and analyzed or gone back through your posts/journalling to identify what results you got with which behaviors? It might help if you had some kind of evaluation system so you know what actions get what results- even if you can't figure out all of them, there might be a few that stand out?
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
haha - I know exactly what you mean by being shy and people thinking you're stuck up - that's me. I did try to think of her as my neighbor who brought a pie over I guess I could treat her that way but I really don't think she'd want to have sex with me...LOL I kill myself sometimes. 
You know, when my D was old enough to observe me, I consciously started making an effort to be more talkative and less stand-offish with strangers b/c I don't want her to be painfully shy, if I can influence it or not. You know what? It's made ME more comfortable talking to people myself, even though it started off just for her 
