I got manipulated... I texted him me- "Im at work" him- "why didn't you respond" me- "didnt know how to respond. how did you respond" him- "congratulations" me- "in person or email" him- "both. i gotta tell ya. your reaction is a lot less happy and much more pushy than I expected" me- "im digesting. bid her farewell for me" him- "what is the friggin problem. she is gone in 2 weeks. you are impossible" me- "perhaps you are getting the wrong vibe over text message. thank you for letting me know" him- "whatever"
Than I called (I know I know)....and it was not a very good conversation..not terrible..but not so good. 1) I told him that I was still digesting all of this 2) I asked him where she was moving to- he said a firm closer to her house. I asked what town..and he asked why? I said "i just want to know where she lurks"..he didnt like that. He responded "if we make it through this- i will tell you where she works"..OK 3) he said "I thought you were going to be really happy about this..i gotta tell ya.."...and 'don't I get any credit for telling you?" 4) he said that she told him yesterday she was going on an interview.
Here is my problem with all of this..(besides his attitude) he said he doesn't talk to her..hmmm- she told you she was going on an interview. Did she sign it to you? She felt like it was appropriate to email my H and tell him that she provided her resignation..was that door really closed? They had a conversation after the email where he said congratulations..said where she was going..that she was happy about leaving and happy about the new job?
I see that my H has really given her the message loud and clear- NO CONTACT!!!! I didn't say this to him..but I need to say something..He wants credit for telling me???? Anytime I ask him more than 2 consecutive questions..he calls it interrogation. This doesn't sound like a man over his A and ready to work on his M. He has a way of manipulating me into feeling like I shouldnt be asking anything. (I know the lurking comment was immature..but....otherwise- I don't think I said anything wrong)
