Just wanted to say hang on in there TeleDad. You'll either figure she's worth the long effort, or that you deserve better.

I'll let you know when I figure it out for myself.

I too am trying to be dark whilst my STBexW if living the good life with my ex friend and current colleague. It's tough, but we must fight on.

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.