About the advice NOT to spell out how we want to save our M's, ILY's etc from DB...I THINK at times we take this advice TOO much to heart, and mis-apply it.
Certainly when our S's are in full WAW mode there's little to be gained by reminding them that THEY don't feel the way WE do.
But in Piecing, it's a whole other ball game. The rules are MEANT to be bent...we need to do WHAT WORKS!!! I think Michelle would agree whole-heartedly!!
It seems to me, too, that it IS about time to lay this out for your H. To LET HIM KNOW where you really stand. It seems that he may well be working under the assumption that the feelings are GONE for you, that you can't see the furture with this M intact.
Think about it, post your ideas if that might help...but I can't see any harm at this point in being honest, as scary and vulnerable as this position is.
