"Sorry you feel that way, you know how I feel about D. You need to do whatever you think is the best decision for yourself and what will make you happy"
This is not the case really...
He needs to do whatever he thinks is the best decision for EVERYONE and what will make EVERYONE most happy.. just like YOU.
I wish I could give credit but there is a poster on this forum that uses the signature text
Whatever is best for my kids is best for me
I really think that should be your husband's position AND yours.
When you tell him he just has to make HIMSELF happy you enable his selfishness I am afraid...
He needs to get into his head that this isnt' just HIM, his actions affect an WHOLE FAMILY.
Let me think on a better way to phrase what you tell him... I can see what you are trying to do, but I am afraid this may be sending the wrong message.
You controlled yoruself perfectly though!
Yes he may be more depressed than you, OR he's just not managing it as well... I DO think you are in mroe pain, but I think you are learning how to work with it constructively... he hasn't... all he knwos how to do is fight and mope... which isn't construtive.
