No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

sandi,

No I don't think she was being secretive because of my lady friend. In fact, she's never asked anything about her. I think she was/is still in the fog of the A so anything I did doesn't really matter. Or she didn't relate that it affects her in some way.

I don't think she's being "secretive" as much as she just tells me the bare facts and doesn't embellish. Over the course of this ordeal, that's how she's been talking to me. Just 'yes', 'no' type answers or one word answers. Now she's actually talking and giving me details albeit very slowly.

I had to learn how to talk to her a different way to get her to open up more. I think basically to make her feel that it was "safe" to open up to me.

Yesterday was a good day. She was a little quieter than she had been the last couple of times, but nonetheless she is talking to me more.

The issue I'm having is whether or not to tell OM's W about his A. He's out of the picture so I don't think he has any more impact on my W, but I'm worried about what he might still be doing behind the scenes to damage my life. I mean I didn't realize that for 2 years he was trying to get me arrested, sued, etc., and I don't think he's going to stop.

His W may know, but I don't think she knows the details. And I definitely don't think she knows about him trying to get me fired a few weeks ago. I need to protect myself and my family from that psycho.

Today I'm taking my W and my kids to see a movie or maybe going to a carnival in town. I'll see if I can get more positive interactions out of her. Sometimes I wish I could just slap the funk out of her.