that is problem MC..I don't know what to say. Whenever we discussed reconciling..H would always say she is going to leave..when I forgave him for the A last May..he kept saying she is going to leave...so this is really a turning point. I never thought she was going to ever ever leave...and it was hard for my H to ever leave..because of his position- career suicide.
Part of me wants to say..."That's great" EOM or maybe just.."OK" EOM
After almost a year of my H telling me the OW was going to leave his small office (15 people)..she is a secretary there..she finally put in her resignation....I know it isn't the biggest deal in the world...but when we tried to reconcile back in May- she was still there and I didn't have the easiest time with it..and obviously he eventually cont. to see her again. She was..and has been until today..continuing to pursue him. The OW has been with two married men in the office (she was never married- 2 kids- 2 baby daddies)..trash.
If I don't respond to his email..he will end up calling or emailing..or texting me to see if I got it.. I don't want him to think I am really all that excited about it...if this was a few months ago..I would be doing back flips..and would have let him know about my back flips..
I don't want him to think that I am too excited..I also don't think he sent me the entire conversation..I doubt he didn't respond..but I don't see a response.
Why is it...the nicer my H gets..the more my suspicions peak?
Nice..flirty,charming emails throughout the day today. I cannot say I wasn't enjoying it..but my mind has now shifted to motive..why all of a sudden? H is going to the gym..and exercise has always made him feel better...but he is being a completely different person. He is being my old H..I am not ready to accept this craziness!!!! I've got one eyebrow raised. 3 days ago he was moving to the Middle East to escape his horrid life...today he is happy as a pig in sh*t...I am probably exaggerating..but a notable difference in his demeanor. hmmmmmm.
See how good DB works.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
and then do I really tell him how I feel about it??? It is great that she is leaving...but I still need to see some big changes in him...but I don't want to say this to him.
Just say that you saw it and didn't really think it warranted a response. That you don't know what you are supposed to do with that information and maybe ask him why HE thought it was important to send to you.
and then do I really tell him how I feel about it??? It is great that she is leaving...but I still need to see some big changes in him...but I don't want to say this to him.
No...never tip your hand on what it will take for reconciliation until they indicate they are ready to work to come home.
