Dropping in to give hugs and support, I can only imagine what an "anniversary" of this type feels like. I think I will always remember the day he left. The new dates we now have to add to our lists.
But, you are so on the mark when you tell me that we get to choose how we respond and act, and in the past year you ahve acted with such class and character that I can only wish I will be as strong as you this time next year.
Hang tough. I wish there was some magic ball we could look inside and see what the future holds, and see if we even know what we want, but since there isn't, I guess we can only do what is best for us.
Take care of yourself and do some extra things for yourself.