Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

You're right Allen. I do recall when H first told me about him and OW, he talked about how he has a good time with her when they go to the movies and out to eat together. So he has spent money on her I am sure. We both received buydown monies from our previous jobs and we cashed out our 401k's. So who knows what H has done for this girl. He probably paid for her to move down south with him, among other things plus this was the money that he was living off of and financing his businesses with. Now that money is gone and it could have been used for our family.

I am definately going to use those phrases when H talks about getting 2 jobs to take care of his kids. I should have been stressing that to begin with. I just can never think of the right comebacks to say to H when he tries to feed me these lame lines. It probably stems from my bad habit of not speaking up for myself when H is doing something unfair to me. Plus my self-esteem was pretty low but I am working on that. I also figured out that H is taking about 25% of the total income coming into my home.

I am thinking that H thought that he was going to move away, start a business or two, get rich, live the life of a bachelor, have OW, send big support checks and material things back to me and kids, eventually file for divorce from me once he was set financially and live happily ever after with his "true love" once he finds her. I am just letting my mind run away and projecting things. I could be wrong. I do know for a fact that H needs to grow up and stop thinking about himself when it comes to his family. I just don't know. Sometimes, I wonder why I want to save my marriage. Love and my kids are what is keeping me from giving up.