8 weeks until D Day!!

[lea74]

So I gave the cheque to my L today for the court order for my H to disclose his income and it felt horrible. I really didnt want it to come to this. My H is going to be mad!!! One of the reasons he stated for Ding me, is that I have taken him for granted financially over the years and now I am asking him to disclose his income. I feel now there is no turning back.

Unfortunately I have had no choice. Before any settlement can be made, we have to be aware of his income as I am entitled to some of it. I have asked twice via 2 emails and a letter from my L and he has declined every time. He says I dont need to know and he will only tell me at the end of the settlement has been made. (I am not sure what the point is of this).

My H hates being told what to do and rules, so I guess this could be a reason why he has declined. Alternatively he is hiding money - although I have my doubts about this.

My L has advised that I have no other choice. She can not proceed any further without this info. Basically my salary is irrelevant as I am claiming maintenance from him.

If after the court order he does not comply we will be going to court, something that we both dont want.

He is still insisting on mediation and I have not him I am not comfortable with this. Anyway he would have to disclose his income in mediation sessions.

Someone once told me there is no such thing as an amicable D. At first I thought we might be the first couple to prove this wrong, however I am sorry to say that this is a fact. Unless of course, one of you is willing to just accept what the other offers and there is no OW.

It is all so sad that after a lifetime together we have come to this. I cant even sit at a table with him and talk to him, however I am not prepared to negotiate the end of my family. If he wants this D then he has to work for it - I will not be giving it to him on a platter.