Just scared of what comes next!

[kissak]

Thank you for the best wishes FP.

My H had been going through this crisis for about 2 years when he decided to go into counseling and it was our MC that suggested it. After my H had broken up with the OW for the umpteenth time and wanted to come home, I called our MC and got the number. I think it was because he really just did not know what he wanted and was tired of not knowing what he was doing. He has been in counseling for over a year and it has helped alot. Now he is actually talking about stop going in the next month or so. Counseling has helped him learn how to deal with his feelings and sort them out among other things. Also, he was diagnosed with having depression. I think really if you suggest counseling to him, it will need to be during a time when he seems at his lowest.

My best advice to you is to be patient of course and if you can, be his friend. Of course set your boundaries but be there for him. My H told me when we first talked about him coming home that I was the ONLY one that was still there for him after all of this. No matter what it was, I was there to listen if that was all he needed. Now, 3 years and 3 months later we are finally working on piecing for real this time.

I hope all works out for you.