There is a good piece on this in my thread if I knew how to snip it here I would. I think it was Lost for Words. You can force compliance which is what has happened here so far but it's almost like a dog, he will pay attention while you have a treat in your hand and then its off to the next thing. Chasing squirrels.
Until he decides to commit for his own sake then you'll be in this little game with him. And .....
You're still attached.
I am only about a week ahead of you on this little detachment curve. If you are wondering wether he is still having A then you are still in the emotional grip of this situation and you will not be able to focus on your self. How much time have you wasted thinking about this issue today?
I spent 2 days a week or so ago obsessing over stupid, vapid blond friend of W telling her that I was not worthy of my W. I fired off an email to the friend telling her to stay out of my marriage. Stupid. This is just noise Lola. Don't do it. You will ruin two days or more of your life on it.
You keep wanting to yank his chain. Let the chain go. He's going to do what he wants anyway.
When you go to wedding thing this weekend try out my speech
"Where's your H?"
"He was abducted Aliens ..."
It works! No one will want any more details.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
