I was thinking the same thing! If I don't tell H how will he know what I want. Sometimes I get confused about this DR stuff, like no R talks; you can't go without talking R talks forever. When is the right time to have R talks? And when is what you are are doing not pursuing or telling them what you want I can't seem to figure out where the line is drawn. What is acceptable and what is a no-no!
Although, mt H is making lots of baby steps, I think, "Am I seeing baby steps or am I assuming.
If you are at a stand still, maybe it is time to do a 180. If what you are doing seems to not be working, change what you are doing!
I just want you to know; I know how you feel! I have been separated for over 9 months now. I'm getting a little impatient and figety.
But then, I have it in my head that H will eventually come home. I just need to be patient. He will be ready when he is ready.
Do you call H? Do you touch H? Do you invite H over? If you don't maybe you should try to do those things and moniter the results. Have you changed? If you haven't then work on what you want to change about you.
If it's been a year than you need to do something different.
I can't seem to figure out where the line is drawn. What is acceptable and what is a no-no!
