Sue -- I came by to check you out real quick before I leave for work. I'll try to get back to you soon, but I'm going away for the weekend tomorrow so it may be a few days.

In the meantime, can you put a link to your story on my thread? I'd like to see where you're coming from.

All I can say at this point is that you might want to think about what it means to be stuck in limbo and what you might gain by allowing things to get un-stuck. You might gain more than you realize. My best friend suggested to me months ago that sometimes in order to save the relationship you might have to be willing to let the old marriage go.

Hang in there -- you'll be fine.

Stay
wilma

I learn by going where I have to go. ~Theodore Roethke